All about Becoming You

For a long time, my life followed a script I didn't write. Growing up, there was a "plan" for who I was supposed to be, and I spent years suffocating in a shell that never fit. I didn't come out until I was 25, and those years leading up to it were defined by a heavy silence and a lot of misplaced anger. I wasn't myself, and I was lashing out because I was hurting.

Breaking free took years of self-reflection and hard work to finally discover who I am. That path eventually led to incredible light: I came out, I found a partner who truly saw me, and we got engaged. But life shifted when I least expected it. My partner’s passing was the hardest day I’ve ever faced, and the grief that followed forced me into a new kind of mental and spiritual journey.

Through that loss, I realized how few resources truly exist for our community when we hit these deep crossroads. That realization, combined with my personal journey and coaching certifications, is why I started Becoming You.

I created this as a place for anyone navigating their own transition, whether you’re deconstructing an old life or building a new one from the ground up. I’m here to help you handle that bad Tuesday or sit with you while we figure out which love matters most in the end. I want to help you walk with the same confidence and pride I found. My name is Eli, and I’d be honored to join you on this adventure.